Saturday, January 23, 2016

He is our teachable moment

There is an article circulating out there on the blog-o-sphere which in so many words patronizes its readers, and all of humanity for that matter, for being drawn to people whom look different.  It asserts the notion that we as individuals are not connected and thus have no responsibility towards one another's formation.  The synopsis of the article is "I'm not interested in teaching you why I'm the way I am... so move on."  Though I understand the writer's desire for autonomy, I found the general theme of having no responsibility for our neighbor absurd and sad.  From people with different lifestyle choices, to people with green hair, to people with disability, the author wanted the reader to know it is not their responsibility to teach others about themselves.  Look away and carry on.

My mind has been swimming with the ideas this article puts forth for several days and I've come to the conclusion that if this writer is correct, that we exist only for ourselves without going out to others, then Dominic's life, and those like him, are worthless.  I mean really, what is the point of someone who can not speak or "do" much of anything in this author's view of reality?  Clearly, they burden society with their substantial medical costs and inconvenience.  And let's face it, it's unpleasant to see a contorted "should-have" of a person.  So, what's the point really of their existence if they are looked at through this lens?

But that author is wrong.  Thank God, she is very wrong.  Who are we if not one body, placed here on this earth to teach, love, and build up others?  What would our life look like if we didn't go outside of ourselves to reach others and share our very beings with them?  Is this not exactly what we've been asked to do: "Love your neighbor as yourself?"  We love others through the sometimes uncomfortable and difficult task of reaching out and being open to know someone and let them know you.  However, our spirit is willing but our flesh is weak.

Don't we all go around immersed in ourselves, hardly able to pry our eyes off the screen in our hand?  Wouldn't we all rather not be bothered with the needs of others?  How often do we parents answer a child's demand with a sigh and reluctant half-hearted gesture?  It's human nature after all, the state of our poor souls after the fall.  And it is because of this tendency towards selfishness that I believe Dominic and those like him are teachers.  They are here to make us look up, make us go out of ourselves, out of our comfort zone.  Make us serve.  Make us love. 

The author of the article ended her rant with "I'm not your teachable moment."  That last line left me so sad for her.  I wanted to yell through the screen, "But, you are!  We all are!"   I wanted to tell her about Dominic and how people know him when we go out in public.  People I've never even met know Dominic.  They come up and touch him, smile at him, love him, and greet him by name.  And often even those who have never met Dominic and do not know our story touch him as they walk by.  Their light brush of his cheek or rustle of his hair is them going out of their comfort zone, out of themselves for another and learning to love.  Sometimes they look, stare really, at him, shocked, then look at me and smile a genuine smile of compassion, as if to say "ah, at first I was sad for him, but now I'm happy for you."  He is their teacher.  He says nothing, does nothing, but in his inability, he teaches them to love.  He is our teachable moment. 


  1. You have once again brought to the forefront Dominics ability to have people reach out not only to him but others each other. Dominic is our blessing.

  2. Mike and Chasity, your family is a true inspiration to Sue and me. Dominic has provided you and us with a great opportunity to love and be loved in a very special way. Sue's brother recently died at the age of 56. He had Down's syndrome and we heard at his funeral and memorial how he touched the lives of so many. For us it was also a teachable moment as well.

    You are great examples of living the Gospel of Christ each day. T

    Frank & Sue Laux

  3. I feel so blessed to have finally seen Dominic(and you) in person. And so ironic to have seen you at my brother, Chuck's funeral. Again Chuck brings blessings in a way only Chuck could do !!! Seeing Dominic brought back so many memories from my childhood were I got to meet so many Angels like Dominic. One of my other brothers, Jimmmy had Duchene Muscular Dystrophy and was in "special education" classes and many of his classmates had disabilities like CP and other dystrophies. I learned so much from them and their families. They are one of the main reasons I became a nurse. So please give Dominic a kiss for me and thank you for another reason to love and cherish my brother, Chuck. Mary Pelletier RN

  4. I must have watched your seven minute film of Your family and Dominic a dozen times and have been so moved each time. I have produced a couple of pro life films sharing peoples life stories and they are all so beautiful but Dominic has them ALL beat! He is so beautiful and our God is so beautiful. He has forever changed your family with his love hasnt he? Your other children are also very amazing too. I am a new convert to the RCC and this bolsters my appreciation for the Mass, the consecration, Our Blessed Mother and everything Catholic. I have been sharing it and I expect Dominic may make believers out of many who are at odds with the RCC. Please check out our website Also our other website and Documentary Protected: Conceived in Rape and other Exceptions" at At some point I would like to consider another film project documenting children with special needs and their connection with the heavenly like Dominic has. If people share their stories could you please have them contact me either from the contact form on our websites or my email 970-534-9053 Thank you so much for sharing Dominic with me and the world. God bless you. kevin

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